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I have theory about men and woman and anger.

I read somewhere that women can express adrenaline in our tears.

When a human being feels threatened (or angry, but anger is usually a response to a perceived threat.) adrenaline is released for the "fight or flight" response. If running away or attacking the source of the threat are not options, then men tend to release that adrenaline by attacking inanimate objects (breaking things, punching walls). Which really is a wonderfully controlled sublimation of a biological imperative. Not hitting anything is (of course) and even more advanced sublimation.

There are women who also sublimate their "fight/flight" response this way (or fail to sublimate it). But women have another option. When women can not run away or strike out, we can cry. Crying serves the same biological function for women as punching a wall (or shouting) does for men.

Most people don't realize that sometimes when women cry it isn't because we are sad or "overly emotional", it is because we are restraining ourselves from gouging your eyes out.

I've decided to add links to articles. Most of the articles just critisize women for not controling our tears, but they don't prove my thesis wrong. They are mostly examples of women's tear being misunderstood.

Sob story: why we cry, and how By Judy Foreman, Globe Staff, MONDAY, October 21, 1996
According to William Frey II, research director of the Ramsay Dry Eye and Tear Research Center in St. Paul.
- Both emotional and irritant tears contain 30 times more manganese than is found in blood, suggesting that human tear glands can concentrate and remove substances from the body. (In sea birds like gulls, albatrosses and cormorants, tear glands are more powerful than kidneys at removing toxic levels of salt from the body.)

- Men's and women's tear glands are structurally different.
Tracks of my tears BY KRIS FRIESWICK, Out There.
"The battle of the sexes stops just shy of the tissue box"

Crying In the Workplace by Maureen Brandon, WOMEN IN CELL BIOLOGY

Crying Has No Place in Baseball or Business by Steve Adubato, The Bottom Line

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Finally!

Someone else out there who can back me up on that one... ;)

My hubbie used to get on me with how often I would cry...I tried telling him that it was my response to extreme emotions...I'm not able to get it out any other way, so I cry.

Nice to know it's not just me. ;)

Re: Finally!

I was very relived myself when I found out other women did that.

I was not able to find any internet source for my asurtion but I did find this interesting article Sob story: why we cry, and how By Judy Foreman, Globe Staff, MONDAY, October 21, 1996

Re: Finally!

That is an interesting article...thanks! :D
I can very much relate to this. Although I would love to scream and kick, etc I have no temper, as such. When I get angry I cry. It's most annoying. Especially as it has happened a couple of times in my professional career at inopportune moments. And I just KNOW they were thinking "Oh gee ..what a girlie girl" when all the time I was trying to say "You big bunch of $!*$!!&!!"

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That's fucking GREAT! Can I link to your entry from my journal?
Sure. I'd be honored
I cry after intense bouts of sex.

It only happens when it's really intense...but when it does I bawl like a baby. At first my husband had trouble with the idea, but the way I explained it to him was that "I feel so much and I feel it so intensely, that it's like it fills me up inside...and it's leaking out my eyes. It's a good thing, I promise."

Ever since then, he kind of gets a little proud about it, I think, when it happens.

My theory is that, like you mentioned, it connects into the flight or fight thing. It's part of the para-sympathetic nervous system I believe...the one that shuts down the adrenaline process.

Made sense to me.
well, here's your living example.

if feeling threatened = called up on carpet before authority

(which it does in my book)

then that explains a heck of a lot of my life. _every_ __single__ _time_ I get called before authority with a feeling that I might be in trouble, the faucets turn on. HARD. this was cute when I was ten. it's not so cute when you're thirty-plus and are trying to discuss something rationally. especially with supervisors & bosses. and when you've been diagnosed with bi-polar, it doesn't contribute to a stable professional image.

oh, and I also have been known to leak a few tears after a really good and pressure/tension relieving orgasm.

interesting.